What it is and how to promote self-love.
Self-love means feeling satisfied by the right behavior and the deserved achievements. People with healthy self-love also know how to respect other people. They do not need to do less to other people or boast or exaggerate their skills or talents. They do not need a lot of money or power to feel good about themselves.
People who respect and love themselves consider that selfishness, lack of self-discipline, imprudence, cowardice, and dishonesty are wrong and unworthy. They have an inner strength and do not allow other people to use or manipulate them. They understand that showing patience or tolerance does not mean allowing others to mistreat them.
People with self-esteem do not disintegrate when they fail. They accept their mistakes as an integral part of life. By helping our children set high goals for themselves, we must also make them understand that failure is not shameful when they have put forth their best effort. However, teaching children self-love does not mean praising you for any little thing. They also need constructive criticism from time to time.
What you can do
• Encourage your child to develop a positive identity that focuses on his or her integrity and talents.
• Emphasize that the character is built through the decisions and actions that a person performs daily.
• Work with your ward to help him explore his full potential by encouraging him to develop his talents, set achievable goals and have self-confidence.
• Teach your
child how to choose good values. Help him reason about what are worthy
goals and what are the proper ways to achieve them.
Self-love can be taught to our children
To love yourself is NOT to be selfish. We do have the habit of looking for what we lack outside of ourselves, waiting for others to give us “that” that we lack and how are we going to teach our children “that” that we lack if we are waiting for someone to give it to us? Firstly, we should be clear about the differences between selfishness and self-love. In this way, we can teach our children self-love.
6 tips to teach self-love to our children, differentiating them from selfishness
To teach our children to love one another more and to gain in self-love, we should be clear about the differences with the concept of self-interest. So, we will clarify a series of differences that will make us understand better.
1. Teach your child to think first of him: To begin with, the egoist only thinks of him, while whoever has self-love thinks first of himself and then of others.
2. Teach your child to have empathy: The selfish does not empathize with others because you need to think about them, to be dedicated only to him.
The one who has Self-Love empathizes with others because others care.
3. Teach your child to listen to others: Being the center of attention is the preferred state of an egoist. However, a person with self-love, acts from listening to others, to be able to contribute or support them.
4. Teach your child to accept criticism: Of course, one who is selfish does not take criticism, while a person who has self-love, is willing to listen to others, to analyze what can improve, and from there learn to do it better.
5. Teach your child to be generous: An egoist only cooperates with others, if he will receive a benefit in return, and a person with self-love, is generous, loves to collaborate with others, simply by feeling useful and noble.
6. Teach your child to think about their inner peace: Selfish people, as they only look at their world, feel above others, while a person with self-love, first thinks about him, to feel better and thus, to contribute the best of him to others.
As parents, this should be our main message for our children: first think and feel for yourself. However, it is not necessary that we say it or repeat it constantly, naturally show your children how to do it, they will learn. Be the model of person you want to reflect on your child. So, before covering the needs of others, include your own needs and thus, you will be giving your best in every moment of the relationship.
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